The term ‘Twin Flames’ has gained popularity in the last few decades through movies, books, and the internet. The concept describes one soul split into two and being entered into two bodies before coming to earth. The split souls continue to feel a void inside them until they reunite with their twin soul. Many people acknowledge meeting their twin flame and even list the twin flame signs they encounter during the first union. It feels like a fairytale: the rush, the heightened emotions, the all-consuming love. It makes us long for our own twin flames. But the question is, is the journey really meant to be peaceful?
Apart from the intense emotions, many twin flames speak about unimaginable pain. But if they feel so much love for their twins, what causes the pain?
Twin flame journeys accelerate growth and personal development. But they also change you into a completely different person. A rebirth of this magnitude isn’t meant to be easy. So, once you learn to identify the twin flame signs, you learn how to navigate them properly without breaking your life.
Twin Flame Signs: The Most Common Ones Felt by Twin Flames
Below are ten commonly ignored twin flame signs and the real reasons they hurt as much as they do.
The Connection Feels Intense but Unstable
This is one of the most prominent twin flame signs twins encounter. When you meet them, you feel like you have known them all your life. This leads to an emotionally intense relationship. But, that bliss comes with an instability. One day, you and your twin act like you’ve found your soulmate. But on the next day, you’re faced with unnecessary and confusing conflicts that make you question the relationship.
Here’s where some twins make the wrong choice. Because the intense connection seems meaningful to them, they brush the conflict under the rug and hope that it will resolve itself. Only it doesn’t. With time, the conflict grows bigger. And at one point, it pulls the two twin flames apart and puts them in unimaginable pain.
So, why does it happen? It hurts because your twin triggers your attachment wounds. They’re not meant for emotional safety, but they come into your life to help you heal those wounds and grow in life. As long as you allow the emotional chaos just to experience the intense pull, you will stay stuck in the loop of never-ending pain.
You Feel Pushed to Face Parts of Yourself You Avoid
We’re all guilty of avoiding parts of ourselves that need improvement, possibly because we have to go through a painful process to heal them. Some of us have serious defensiveness, jealousy, control issues, or a fear of abandonment that hinder our personal growth. But we often think that these are stress caused by circumstances, and will resolve with time. And so we refuse to do the required self-work to become a better person.
When a twin flame appears in our life, they trigger these issues every day. And before we know it, we start getting anxiety attacks every day. We ignore the fact that the anxiety is stemming from our lack of self-work, not because of our twin. Research on self-awareness and emotional triggers shows that unaddressed internal conflict increases anxiety and rumination over time. If we don’t work on it, we can never walk out of the cycle of pain.
Separation Feels Unbearable but Necessary
As you know, separation and reconnection are a vital part of a twin flame journey. Due to the intense emotional connection, you might feel like you’re dying when you cut yourself off from your twin. But, the day-to-day turmoil was already focring you to walk away from the relationship.
Here’s where we go wrong – we focus too much on the hurt that comes with the separation without questioning why it was needed. Their absence forces us to work on ourselves and build inner stability. But we choose to focus on the void instead and prolong our pain and discomfort.
You Sense the Connection without Clear Communication
Many twin flames report sensing their twin flame’s emotions or thoughts without explicitly communicating with them. This can also happen when they’re in separation. While many people believe that telepathy between two humans is possible, many laugh it off due to a lack of proper scientific evidence. But in the case of twin flames, the telepathy almost feels like magic.
But why is it considered painful instead of beautiful? Many twin flames rely on it too much to assume what’s going on in their twins’ lives. These thoughts can often get obsessive or disruptive. To prevent this, we should always check the facts and maintain boundaries to protect our sanity, because the emotional intensity that comes with intuition isn’t really worth it.
The Relationship Disrupts Your Daily Functioning
Many twin flames compare their relationships to a ‘high’ that comes from addiction. When you’re drowning in intense emotions, you lose track of time, duties, and boundaries. The emotions engulf you and your obligations. This disrupts your day-to-day life and can seriously derail you from your goals if you don’t check them.
Not only that. The connection is so intense that you slowly begin to lose sleep, notice a sharp drop in your appetite, and lose control over your cognitive abilities. This is when the connection becomes painful. You watch as your life spirals out of your hands, but you don’t correct your ways because the bliss is too tempting to let go. This is where we must step up and set boundaries to take control of our lives. Otherwise, we can’t prevent the impending failure.
Friends or Family Express Concern
At one point in your relationship with your twin flame, your friends and family members begin to express concern. You know that you’re in love. But they see you slowly becoming another person – a person who doesn’t care about their goals and wellbeing.
They assume that you’re in an abusive relationship that’s sucking you dry. You object loudly, because you know you’ve never been this happy in life before. And this is when you clash with your friends and family. You tell them that they don’t understand what you have with your twin flame.
This causes a fallout with those you love – and hurts you all. It also increases your chances of isolating yourself. Therefore, the wiser decision is to pay attention to their concerns without dismissing them, and actively protect your well-being.
The Relationship Repeats the Same Conflicts
Many twin flames report having a pattern in twin flame relationships. They often call it déjà vu, as if one of their past relationships is repeating. This is not a delusion. Twin flame relationships tend to bring out old patterns that you must work on. It acts as a mirror that shows what you must change within yourself to atrract a successful relationship. That’s why the patterns emerge, and that’s why the relation appears so eerily similar to the ones you left behind.
This can often trigger anxiety, panic attacks, and dig up old wounds you try hard to bury. The height of emotional turmoil can urge you to run away. But this is where you should change your behavior. Focus on what your twin flame is highlighting and correct that behavior. Over time, you will grow stronger and become a refined person.
Twin flame journeys have been unnecessarily romanticized in movies, books, and online articles, but it’s rarely so. The pain often becomes so overwhelming that you find yourself wishing that you’d never met your twin. However, once you understand how to channel the intense emotions into personal growth, you’ll turn your biggest pain into your biggest strength.
If you can relate to multiple of the twin flame signs mentioned in this article, this might be your calling to adjust your behavior and emotions so that they can work in your favor. You must not let it break you. Once you learn to navigate the painful patches, you will become stronger than ever.
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